A Perspective on Singapore Dating

There seems to be a resigned mindset among young guys when it comes to dating girls in Singapore. Notable in this mindset is a sort of inferiority complex born out of the belief that the foreigners have all the luck with the local girls. This is not only because of the legions of party girls that flock to the ex pats for a quick fling. They witness many supposedly hard to get girls in long term relationships with foreigners as well. Many local guys consider themselves left with the second string selection of girls in the dating pool. This is as much a result as low self esteem than anything else. And any person with even a slim knowledge of the female mind could tell you, girls are attracted to confidence and self assurance, and repelled by self doubt and meekness.

The problem is also cultural. In Singapore, there is a gender divide no longer found in western cultures. Singaporean men are expected to behave in a gentlemanly fashion towards women, whether she is a love interest or even a casual acquaintance. This deeply ingrained cultural trait means that while they may be a barrel of laughs among the guys, as soon as they are in the presence of a woman they will behave primly correct, perfectly polite, and come off as insufferably boring. While it is not impossible to engage in Singapore dating with this mindset, the guy will usually end up being walked all over until some edgy, exciting guy shows up to steal her away.

Bear in mind that in western nation, the gender divide has not existed for many years. Guys will be much more open with women, even treating them as ''one of the guys''. Thus, they will be much more open, comfortable, and edgy when talking to a woman. And the truth is most girls cannot resist a ''bad boy''. When considering that one guy behaves like grandpa and the other is funny, confident, different, slightly dangerous, who do you think the girl would rather spend her time with?

So the key to successful Singapore dating is controlling your mindset. If a grown man exhibits any kind of self doubt or insecurity, girls can smell that a mile away and will brush you aside and await a more confident partner. The trick is to remove all traces of negativity from the mind. If you approach a woman with a trace of doubt or negativity it will come through. Fear or failure is what can drive a young guy to focus on less attractive partners or give up trying altogether. Banish fear of failure from your mind and approach a girl with positive belief that you certainly can be the perfect guy for her. Remember, the prettiest girl there is often the one all the other guys are afraid to approach, so she's often open to chat with a guy confident enough to approach her.

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